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title: "I don't have a good explanation for this"
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date: 2021-03-21
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draft: true
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tags: ["blabla","life","misc","relationships"]
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series: [""]
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---
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A few days ago I started saying this sentence more often. The situation is mostly that me
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- did something I shouldn't have done
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- have only done something half-heartedly
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- did something wrong
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- Please fill in the blanks
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I'm talking about these situations where your wife asks you if you are still at consolation. I don't know about others, but we do quite often. That could possibly be because I tend to be a little bit stubborn.
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I don't know why I started to answer "I don't have a good explanation for it". I haven't read about it anywhere or anything. But that doesn't matter, what is important is what this little sentence does:
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## A small portion of honesty
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Most of the time it really is like this: We do something that we know is not exactly wise now or only half-heartedly or we know that we are doing something that will displease the other.
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I don't know how others are doing, but if you're caught doing it and asked about it, it's usually a great excuse. The point is that your wife will remark that you are just serving her an aura.
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It's not very glorious, not really honest, but it is what it is, you try to explain the meaning of your behavior somehow.
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If I responded with "I don't have a good explanation" instead of an excuse or an explanation, different things happen than usual:
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1. My wife responds with a smile and the situation relaxes
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2. The pressure that I myself may feel in such a situation is gone immediately
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This is not just an empty phrase. It's probably the only thing I could say that is really true, because the fact is: I usually really don't have a goo explanation for my behavior in such situations. That makes this answer very honest.
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If everything else is an excuse anyway and the pitiful attempt to make sense of nonsensical behavior, it is probably not worth the effort.
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I will keep this way. I can't say today whether this will pay off in the long term and whether we will treat each other better and more honestly as a result. Maybe it will help.
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